Ok here are my words of wisdom please feel free to totally ignore me.
Being a Parent is the hardest job in the world. Being a good parent is even harder and being a good working parent in utterly impossible if you are not super human. Dont expect to be able to pull it all off, you cant something has to give. Personally I gave up unnecessary housework including ironing !!!!
There are times when I need a little help and have over the years for a few periods had a little bit of help from my friends the anti depressants, having one of those periods at the moment and have to say that thanks to my friend Prozac I am feeling much better able to cope and in fact almost human instead of a wobbly jelly.
Sleep deprivation is the pits, there in nothing worse in just grinds you down. Now for the hard bit. I gave in to tough love in the end, sitting on the top of the stairs listening to Gethin Cry, crying myself..... I would leave longer and longer periods between going in to him and would just talk to him calmly untill he settled and then leave again without picking him up. I had to give up breast feeding quite early as he needed prescription milk but as part of the sleep pattern breaking I had to stop the milk and replace it with water. It seems harsh but it worked for me and I could finally sleep in a bed again ( I was sleeping on his bedroom floor to scared to move most nights) and all this whilst working full time. Within a week he was sleeping but that week was hell !!!!
Councilling is good but only if you are honest with yourself. Chin Up you are doing a great job considering your world has just been turned upside down.
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Being a Parent is the hardest job in the world. Being a good parent is even harder and being a good working parent in utterly impossible if you are not super human. Dont expect to be able to pull it all off, you cant something has to give. Personally I gave up unnecessary housework including ironing !!!!
There are times when I need a little help and have over the years for a few periods had a little bit of help from my friends the anti depressants, having one of those periods at the moment and have to say that thanks to my friend Prozac I am feeling much better able to cope and in fact almost human instead of a wobbly jelly.
Sleep deprivation is the pits, there in nothing worse in just grinds you down. Now for the hard bit. I gave in to tough love in the end, sitting on the top of the stairs listening to Gethin Cry, crying myself..... I would leave longer and longer periods between going in to him and would just talk to him calmly untill he settled and then leave again without picking him up. I had to give up breast feeding quite early as he needed prescription milk but as part of the sleep pattern breaking I had to stop the milk and replace it with water. It seems harsh but it worked for me and I could finally sleep in a bed again ( I was sleeping on his bedroom floor to scared to move most nights) and all this whilst working full time. Within a week he was sleeping but that week was hell !!!!
Councilling is good but only if you are honest with yourself. Chin Up you are doing a great job considering your world has just been turned upside down.