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lnr ([personal profile] lnr) wrote2002-09-10 10:42 am

Polyness

So I'm not completely mono, I've known this for years. But Richard is definitely somewhat more poly than me. And going through a rough patch at the moment makes me more insecure and hence less good at dealing with it. But hell he's good at making me feel better about stuff, we talked and well stuff until about 3 last night, which was a bit silly really with the alarm going off at 8, but never mind, well worth it.

It would help if there was anyone I was much interested in at the moment, I guess. But still, we've talked about limits, where they should be now and the fact that they might move in the future as I get more comfortable with stuff and used to the idea. And I give him my blessing though it makes me nervous.

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[identity profile] mobbsy.livejournal.com 2002-09-10 09:21 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks. That was interesting. I'm sort of working on the principle that with enough communication, everything can work itself out. I suppose most of your rules mainly eliminate the need for communication where it isn't necessary, because you've agreed to some absolutes. Possibly something like that will evolve.

[identity profile] simonb.livejournal.com 2002-09-10 09:54 am (UTC)(link)
I'd agree when it comes to communication. The stuff I wrote down in my previous comment has evolved over a period of several years and as you say, it does cut down on the need for unnecessary communication.

Or phone calls like "There is this really cute MOTAS here, can I start snogging them" for that matter :)